February 20, 2013


When my wife gave birth to our son, I never thought I would be as invloved as she was with taking care of the baby. Thats because my father never took care of me, it was my "mother's" job. My father was working and so that meant that he was excused from taking care of my brother and I. So do I be a father that just pays the bill or be a real father who is also there?

I choose to be a real father.


Because anyone can pay the bills. Not everyone can be a father. Its hard work, its determination, its alot less sleep and almost no play but its worth it. Thats a commitment you make when you choose to get your wife pregnant.

Just because we go to work to bring home the money does not excuse us from baby duties. Our wives are not a reproductive factory we pay to make our babies and we shouldnt treat them like a paid nanny. Its as much our jobs to look after the baby as it is theirs.

When I am out working, its my wife's job to ensure that our son is well taken care of. When im home from work, its my turn to take care of the little guy. If we dont play our part in caring for our children, when will our wives ever get a break? Even the toughest machines break down if you run it for a whole day.

Some of you may casually say that we could have always hired a maid. My wife and I strongly believe that our babies will be cared for only by us, not maids. And my wife has a thing about strangers living in our house. This means no confinement ladies (something new to me) or maids because she feels uneasy with a stranger in the house. I ended up doing her confinement and taking care of my newborn son with the simple recipes my mother-in-law provided me.

Was it easy? It took alot of adjusting to. It meant giving up all my hobbies and devoting whatever engery I dont already have to taking care of my son. How do I do it? With alot of love and a new found hobby, fatherhood.

Make the right choice, be a real father.

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